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14th September 2015

Diary of a CODA

She learnt how to sign before she could talk, but the nurses just called it ‘double babble’. Worried about being the ‘eldest ear’ in the family, Serena Cobb, shares what it’s really like growing up with Deaf parents

we have an active social life!

My advice to other young CODAs is to be yourself. I know it’s easier said than done, but don’t worry about what other people think of you. If they’re worth knowing, they won’t judge you. And don’t be afraid to be open with your family, as the saying goes, ‘honesty is the best policy’. If something is on your mind just say it – it’s always worked for me!

So what’s the deal with? Questions people always ask me

Can your brother and sister hear? Yes… ‘Oh! That’s such relief!’

Can your parents drive?

Can your parents talk?

Can you teach me to sign?

Is your home silent? ‘Not with me around it isn’t!’

How did you learn to talk?

Can your parents have children? Um…Hello?!

Published in BDN September 2014 issue

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